Perhaps you always thought of your parents as old. Their behavior, conversation and boring lifestyle made them seem like they were ancient compared to your fresh perspective. Now, of course, you realize that what seemed like evidence of old age when you were growing up was often just plain common sense.
Recently, however, you may have noticed that one or both of your parents are really showing their age. This is natural, of course, and you aren’t really surprised when they have senior moments. However, you may wonder when you should be worried. What are the signs that your parents may need more consistent attention? When will you know if the time is right for taking over the management of your parents’ needs?
Conservatorship is often a loving, but difficult, choice
Seeking conservatorship of your parents is not an easy decision, nor is one to make without certainty. While it is often in the best interests of those involved, parents who become the wards of their children often feel as if they have lost much of the independence and autonomy they once enjoyed. If you are considering filing for conservatorship, you may be looking for signs that it is a necessary step to take with your own parents.
Signs that your loved one needs assistance
If you fear that your parents are beginning to show signs of mental decline, you may also fear that they will begin to make critical mistakes, like forgetting to pay important bills, take their medication appropriately, eat at regular intervals or turn off dangerous appliances after using them. Everyone has a moment of forgetfulness, no matter what age, but you may be right to feel concerned if your parents show any of the following symptoms:
- Inability to carry on a normal conversation without losing focus or becoming agitated
- Unusual lack of interest in favorite activities, family traditions or routines
- Apathy about their appearance, cleanliness of clothing and grooming
- Failing to keep up with household chores, laundry, taking out the garbage or keeping things in their normal manner
Your loved ones may seem to be losing weight. This could indicate many things, such as a reaction to medication, illness or depression. It could also be evidence that your loved ones no longer have the mobility or physical strength to prepare meals or that they are simply forgetting to eat.
With the help of a medical doctor, you will be able to ascertain if your loved ones are suffering from a decline in cognitive abilities. If a medical professional believes this is an irreversible condition, such as the result of Alzheimer’s disease, you may find comfort in the advice and guidance of an attorney who has experience with the California laws concerning conservatorship.